It’s possible that you’ve found your twin flame if you meet someone and experience an immediate and profound connection with them, almost as if you’re meeting yourself for the first time. Relationships with twin flame can be transformative and thrilling, but they can also be harmful at times.
You’re probably familiar with the concept of soulmates, but have you ever heard of twin flame? Although at first glance the two ideas can appear to be interchangeable, there are important distinctions between them.
Some psychologists believe that twin flames are a real phenomenon that should be investigated further despite the absence of scientific proof that can definitively prove their existence.
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What is a “Twin Flame”?
According to Barbara Spinelli, LP, a licensed professional counselor, relationship specialist, and chief executive officer of Babita Spinelli Group and Opening the Doors Psychotherapy, “twin flames are two halves or mirrors of two separate individuals.”
These people tend to have comparable skills and shortcomings and have a profound sense of connection due to something they have in common, most often in the form of shared suffering, as she says.
A relationship therapist named Lisa Vallejos, PhD, LPC, who specializes in couples, defines a “twin flame” as two individuals who share a profound soul connection with one another.
She continues, “They appear to mirror one another, and have shared similar life trajectories, history, and occasionally traumatic experiences.”
Elizabeth Clare Prophet, a leader of the Summit Lighthouse and the New Age religion known as The Church Universal and Triumphant, is credited by Vallejos as being the originator of the term “twin flame.” The Prophet gained perhaps the most notoriety for advising her followers in the late 1980s to get ready for the nuclear Armageddon she predicted.
Signs of a Twin Flame’
According to psychologists, there are a few indications that could hint to a twin flame relationship:
Sense that you’re meeting yourself multiple similarities, sometimes uncanny deep connection desire to grow prioritization of growth over being in a relationship the meeting signifies a major change in your life sense that you’re meeting yourself multiple similarities, sometimes uncanny deep connection desire to grow prioritization of growth over being in a relationship.
You feel like you’re meeting yourself
According to Spinelli, a relationship with a twin flame is characterized by “something feeling so familiar about the other.”
It is possible, according to Spinelli, that you will feel:
You might even believe that you can sense the feelings that the other person is experiencing.
“The most important thing is that it is unmistakably familiar, as though… you have known them for a very long time. According to Vallejos, there is a sense of coziness that is inexplicable.
They make you want to be better
According to Spinelli, your twin flame can assist you in overcoming your triggers, fears, and other difficulties.
For instance, if you have an avoidant attachment style in your relationships and your twin flame struggles with communication, you may start to question why you’re even trying to be with this person.
Your life changes quickly
A relationship with a twin flame has the potential to bring about quick transformation. You may have been under the impression that you would be doing one thing, but all of a sudden, you’re switching careers or moving to a different part of the country.
Twin flame Test
The following is a list of questions that you might ask yourself to “test” whether or not a certain person is your genuine twin flame:
- What is it about this person that intrigues me or makes me feel as though I’ve met them before? Is there no possible downside to that?
- When I’m with this person, what aspects of myself come to my attention?
- Do I in fact believe that this is a connection to the sacred? Or does being near the individual bring up a traumatic experience from the past?
- Do I feel ecstatic, or do I suddenly want to flee?